Alcoholism, depression, and chemical addiction are often scorned by society. Many still find these problems “lacking what to do”.
However, people who live the problems closely suffer every day with their symptoms, whether they are the carriers of such diseases or their friends and family.
When one does not know how to deal with these evils, coexistence can be greatly impaired. This is because living together with someone who has symptoms requires knowing how to proceed in different situations.
Today we will give you some tips on what not to do. That way you improve your quality of life and you do not run the risk of falling ill with the other, becoming, for example, a co-dependent.
- Take walks : if the person is open to this possibility, take them to places where they can have fun. Go to the movies, theater, take walks outdoors, etc. Show her that there are several sources of pleasure and that drinking is not the only way to get it.
- Do not say things anyway : there is a reason or a reason for alcoholism. It can be trauma, fear, stress or even anxiety. To despise the feelings of the alcoholic will not help you to treat yourself. On the contrary: it can even make things worse.
- Seek help: Look for a clinic where you can talk to a professional. Clarify your doubts. This will help you deal with the problem.
- Do not force the bar : if your loved ones are young, banning has negative effect and can cause more strain. Be patient and act firmly, but without imposition.
- Do not drink alcohol at home : people in treatment may have relapses if their addictions are around the house, still part of their life.
- Do not say optimistic phrases : the depressive does not want “force” or motivational phrases. Inciting the depressed to cheer can have the opposite effect, since it is an isolated condition that has nothing to do with the state of “sadness” we commonly experience. Be supportive, listen more and speak less, show that you care.
- Do not make comparisons : it may work for some people to know that there are others worse off, but with depressives it does not work that way. This is synonymous with devaluing your emotions. Just listen, agree and offer help if he needs it.
- Do not overlook : saying that it is “freshness”, “self-pity” or “is for attention” only brings a sense of worthlessness and lack of greater importance. The depressive picture worsens and can lead to despair, self-mutilation and even suicide attempts.
- Do not walk away: invite the person to perform some activity that gives you pleasure, such as walking outdoors or a bike ride. Some laughter may contribute to the release of endorphin and dopamine, the hormones related to the sense of well-being.
- Do not say it is a phase : learning how to deal with the problem is different from being cured. Support and encourage the search for treatment.
- Do not go away : be the best friend you can be. Be always present and listen when you want to talk. Respect and understand your difficulties.
- Do not be rude : have empathy and put yourself in the person’s place.
- Do not be fooled : know signs and symptoms. Recognize relapses, identify the level of addiction, and encourage treatment.
- Do not be nosy : make sure the person wants to be helped and, if so, offer a helping hand. Indicate specialized centers and be present during times of difficulty.
- Do not finance addiction : no matter how difficult things are, never give money to your loved one to use drugs.